In recent times, we have preparatory classes for vitally everything; from 1 week courses to four year degrees in preparation for a 25 year career. High school juniors and seniors spend time meeting with a counselor just so they can choose the right college – an environment to spend the next four years of their lives – or choose the right career, a job from which they will eventually retire. But the same level of attention and preparedness seems to be missing when we talk about marriage, the one decision and commitment that requires a life time, one from which you do not retire, neither can you transfer hours, credit or pension regardless of the current return on investment. Hmmm, we got you thinking…I bet you now agree that pre marriage help is as necessary as marriage help.
A good marriage starts with a good foundation. The foundation of anything determines the stability, durability, and often times the sustainability of the structure. Similarly, a good marriage requires a solid foundation. Our belief is that God is the author of marriage, (Mathew 19:4-7) and in order to experience the fullness of marriage, the foundation has to be the word of God. All of who God is, is in his word and is experienced in the intimate relationship we share with Him. It is through His word and faith in His son Jesus Christ that we come to the knowledge and acceptance of Him as our Lord and savior (Roman 9:9-10).
After accepting Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and savior, most people tend to ask the questions like “What’s next? “and that is a valid question. You want to how these steps you’ve taken will affect your life. You are curious about who God is, and why he chose to die for you. What makes you special to deserve such a gift, especially from someone that you barely know. While accepting Jesus Christ is the first step, getting to know Him requires an inward and outward demonstration of your confession. The inward demonstration represents the infilling of the Holy Spirit as explained in (Act 2:2-4, Romans 8:1–17) while the outward demonstration represents water baptism by immersion (Acts 10:43-48, Acts 16:33, Galatians 3:26-27).
Developing a life style of devotion to God’s word and spending time in His presence always helps with getting to know more about Him. And as you know more about Him you begin to understand why He made the sacrifice for you, and how much He values you. His desire for you is always of good and not of evil, to give you a hope and a future and to bring you to an expected end; a purpose, a destiny (Jeremiah 29:11, 1:5). It important to discover who you are in Christ Jesus, His purpose for putting you here on earth, and how you can fulfill that purpose. It is also important to understand that everything you need to become all that you ought to be is already in you; and what better person is there to show you all the hidden treasures inside of you than your creator.
The discovery of yourself through God’s eyes changes everything. You become aware of who you are and what you were placed on this earth to do and that opens up a new world of possibilities and adventures, as well as a better understanding of who you would want to share all this awesomeness with. One of the biggest questions you will ever ask with reference to marriage is how do I know “THE ONE” as it is often referred to. Well knowing who you are in Christ Jesus will set you on the right path to locating “THE ONE” or being located by “THE ONE” (Proverbs 18:22).
Salvation is God’s ultimate gift to man kind, and accepting this gift sets the foundation for everything thing else that God can do through and with you on earth. Yes we all accept this gift at different stages in our lives, however it is important to note that salvation is the key to unlocking our understanding of who God is, as well as the purpose for which we have been created.John 3:3-6 (KJV) “3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. 4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother’s womb, and be born? 5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. 6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit”.
It is not God’s desire that any perish, but that all should come to repentance,(2nd Peter 3:9) and enjoy life to its fullest while here on earth (John 10:10)
There is so much to God that our minds can not phantom, and understanding the TRINITY is so crucial to grasping who we are in christ. Getting God and knowing your place in His master plan requires and deep search and thirst for Him. Jeremiah 33:3 (KJV) “3 Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and show thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not”.
One of the greatest secrets to fulfilling your purpose and destiny is knowing who you are, and being confident of your identity in christ. It is important that you know the difference between your identity based on the family you were born into and your identity based on your adoption into the kingdom of God. Jeremiah 1:5 (NKJV) “5 Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations”.
Marriage is God’s idea. A relationship between a man and a woman. God saw that there was none suitable for Adam in all His creation and he decided to make him a help mate, taking from him a precious rib from Adam to make Eve, and the intent of God was to always unite them back as one through marriage according to God’s word Matthew 19:4-5 “4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?”
STAY MARRIED: Marriage is a beautiful thing, a coming together of two separate people united in holy matrimony to symbolize unity, love, sacrifice and legacy. Staying married is a major challenge. As we can see in our world today, marriages are breaking down and people are no longer following through with their commitment to have and to hold, forsaking all others, and till death do us part. That is why it is important for couples to seek God and understand the “CAUSE” for which they have been brought together. The “CAUSE” or vision is what holds the marriage together through the trials and tribulations they will face on the journey. Hebrews 12:2 (KJV) 2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. Remember that without a vision the people perish Proverbs 29:18.