Jesus said “For this REASON a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh (Matthew 19:5, Genesis 2:24)
Have you ever wondered about the “REASON”? Another translation of the bible says for this “CAUSE”. Could there be a specific reason why you and your spouse were brought together? Regardless of the circumstance that joined the both of you together, regardless of the pain, hardship, trial and tribulations you might have experienced in the time that you both have been married. Is there a possibility that there is a bigger picture and a specific assignment for the both of you?
Remember Jesus himself said “for this REASON”. Now if you are as curious as I was, then you owe it to yourself to find out the “REASON”, “CAUSE”, and “PURPOSE” for your marriage. Now you may be asking how I do that. Am glad that is your thought process.
The first step to discovering the “REASON” is turning to the one whose original idea it was to establish marriage and the covenant therein. What am I saying? Give your life to Christ. Yes it is that simple. You first of all have to cleanse yourself of all the pain, un-forgiveness, disappointments, hopelessness, and any other negative emotions, thoughts and feelings about yourself and the current state of your marriage. Remember that: Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold all things are become new (2nd Corinthians 5:17).
This specific act of faith grants you instant access to forgiveness gives you the grace to receive the spirit of God and then guides you through your journey of discovering the “CAUSE”.
The second step to discovering the “CAUSE” is to begin to understand the author, the creator the one whose idea it was to create mankind and establish the marriage covenant. Getting to know God, his will and his ways requires faith; faith through studying and listening to his word. Remember: So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God (Romans 10:17). This process takes some time; there is a renewal of mindset that needs to take place. You have to be willing to make changes, adjust thinking patterns, and trust with your heart and not your head. Remember that: But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
The next step in this journey is discovering who you really are, your talents, your gifting, and your unique abilities. “Have you not read”, Jesus replied “that at the beginning the creator ‘made them male and female (Matthew 19:4)” Every one of us male and female have a unique ability, talent, gifting. Never believe or settle for the lie of the enemy that you are just an ordinary person. There is nothing ordinary about you, and you need to begin to believe and accept this fact. “ Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5) and For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
As you go through this journey and are beginning to observe the changes that are occurring in your life, you will notice that you are beginning to develop new habits, values, patterns of thinking and resilience towards seeing that you attain the “CAUSE” the one “REASON” responsible for the starting this journey in the first place. The “CAUSE” for every marriage is different. Different because our past forms us, our pains and heart aches shape us, our desires will us, but Gods plans establish and fulfill us. Your marriage and the circumstance that brought you together in marriage are unique, and most often God uses that to establish your specific “CAUSE”. One thing that you can be certain of is that your “CAUSE” usually has something to do with your PASSION. Your PASSION is what you believe in and are willing to die for.
I urge you today to embark on this journey and start to enjoy the blessings that lie within.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.
10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).